Why American Kids Don’t Eat Anything

Ok, so this title isn’t accurate, and it surely is an unfair generalization I am making. But hear me out. I’ve been reading Karen Le Billon’s French Kids Eat Everything. In summary, it is about how she and her husband moved to the French countryside with their two children and discovered that their children’s American-Canadian eating habits were not just “picky,” but more of a reflection of parenting and expectations. I haven’t gotten too far into the book since receiving it for Christmas, but prior to asking for it, I was able to read a lot of the excerpts at the Amazon site and already start putting into practice some of the ideas.

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To give you a little background, let me tell you about my 4-year-old daughter, Marley. I guess you should know that she is my stepdaughter, and I am a newlywed. My husband, having been a hard-working single dad the first few years of Marley’s life, wasn’t so aware of nutrition. And, justifiably so, he resorted to giving Marley whatever she would happily eat. Unfortunately, most of the foods she would accept by the time I met her at age 2 ½ consisted of two food groups: grains and dairy. She would eat quesadillas, cheese pizza, grilled cheese, Easy Mac (only the microwavable kind, as she turned her nose up to every other mac n cheese)…you get the picture. Sure there were some other items on her approved list that were a bit healthier: Cheerios, hot dogs, scrambled eggs, and some fruits. And to my husband’s credit he really did make an effort to limit her juice and sugar intake.

With that said, Marley and my soon-to-be-husband moved to my home state when Marley was three, and thus began my quest to change Marley’s eating habits. For one, not only could I not bring myself to give her Easy Mac every night for dinner, but she was showing definite signs of food sensitivities, chronic constipation being the most noticeable. In addition, her Daddy is an undiagnosed Celiac, and with Marley’s craving for breads, we were pretty sure she had an allergy to some extent (which was later confirmed with testing).  Speaking of food allergy testing, this limited Marley’s diet even further than I would have on my own, but she is healthier for it in the end.

Changing Marley’s diet, and, therefore, getting her to eat more of a variety of foods, was nothing short of frustrating. Dinner time was the biggest battle, and often it felt like a lose-lose situation for both of us. Sure, she was slowly learning to like some new foods, and we were definitely adding to her list of approved ones, but I kept hoping for a breakthrough. I kept trying different tactics, none of which were working. Until I did one thing:

Family style = Big success!

Family style = Big success!

I began serving our dinners family style. You heard it right. That’s all I did.

It was easy for Marley to understand that what was on the table was what’s for dinner that night. She knew she wasn’t getting “her food,” as she likes to call it. I repeat: What was on the table is what’s for dinner. And the novelty of even calling it “Family Style” was something that delighted her. The first several weeks of this, I let her choose whatever she wanted to eat from the table. Sometimes that meant she only ate some pineapple, other times it meant she would pick the chicken out of the casserole and only eat the chicken, some times it meant she didn’t eat anything at all. The point was, she knew nothing else was coming, and she was in control of what she ate and didn’t eat (so she thought). This revolutionized our dinner time! Dinner became a joyous time again, and that was my number one goal, even more than getting Marley to eat what the rest of the family was eating.

We started there, but now that dinner time is something Marley looks forward to instead of dreads, I have slowly started expanding her palate again. She gets to first choose what she wants (and she is surprising me every night by what she is willing to try on her own), and then I will add to it a couple of bites of whatever she didn’t pick. And it’s been miraculous. The whining has [nearly] stopped. She is eating faster. And we still have smiles on our faces when dinner is over. The other night she ate the broccoli on her plate with no prompting. I was confused at first wondering how it disappeared off her plate!

There is one more change I attribute to this success. I’ve been using an online meal plan that has all of us trying new foods. Every night we have vegetables on the table that I have never even bought from the grocery store before. At first, Marley just saw more variety on the table and that Mommy and Daddy gobbled it up. Now, she is trying these new foods herself and learning that they are good! The best is when Daddy, who insists he is not a picky eater (ha!), has to pretend to like the meal, all while Marley is chowing down! (Insert “success” fist pump here.)

Most of all, I can relax, knowing that my family is being fed nutritious food.

This is just our meal time journey. I don’t know if what worked for my child will work for yours. But many of us have fallen into bad eating habits with our kids, and most of us wish we could get healthier foods down them. If you have some tips that have worked for your family, please share for your fellow readers below!

Herbed Chicken Thighs, Cauliflower Kale Salad, and Blackberries

Braised Chicken Thighs, Cauliflower Kale Salad, and Blackberries

Tangy Pork Tenderloin, Fennel Potatoes, Maple Butternut Squash

Tangy Pork Tenderloin, Fennel Potatoes, Maple Butternut Squash

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Why Your Workout May Be Harming You

I am a dancer. It’s in my blood. “Once a dancer, always a dancer,” is what I always say. The problem with being a dancer, as any athlete can attest to, is that you constantly push your body to do more. You continuously stretch for greater flexibility and higher elevations. You condition and strengthen for better control and stamina. In other words, your body is in a constant state of tearing and rebuilding each time you workout. This remains true no matter what your exercise of choice is.

For those who are healthy and whose systems are balanced, moderate, regular exercise is a benefit. But for those of us with hormone imbalances and autoimmune issues, adrenal fatigue included, moderate exercise is harmful. Why is this?

In addition to the rebuilding of muscles that puts stress on the body, the adrenal glands release spurts of cortisol during and immediately following a moderate to intense workout. This is a normal adrenal reaction in healthy and unhealthy persons alike. However, with regular workouts, your adrenal glands are having to work overtime. Chronically high levels of cortisol can lead to adrenal fatigue and other health problems, such as insomnia, chronic fatigue, weight gain, depression, and more. If we are already struggling with these issues, our symptoms are only compounded, and we end up running our adrenal glands into the ground.

Even moderate exercise is harmful to those of us with hormone imbalances and autoimmune issues.

I used to work in a chiropractor office that offered a variety of therapies and health education classes. Many of our patients were chronically ill, and many of those who were chronically ill were avid gym members, working out for hours a day. The gym was their life. They looked so fit on the outside, but they were experiencing some pretty severe symptoms on the inside that not only caused them to struggle through their workouts, but to struggle through their daily lives. We had the hardest time convincing them that they were pushing their bodies too far, that their symptoms were not going to improve, no matter how healthy they ate, no matter how many times a week they came in to see us, if they didn’t stop their intense workouts. These were some of our most stubborn patients. Their adrenals had crashed, and many other systems in their bodies were on the verge. The best thing they could have done to heal was to stop going to the gym.

Should I stop exercising altogether while my body heals? Yes and no. I would give a strong caution if exercising to you means lifting weights, running, or doing cardio. A good rule of thumb is, if you feel energized after a workout only to crash later, if you have trouble sleeping that night, or if you are fatigued the following day or are in pain, then you are doing more than your body can handle. While admitting that your body is in a fragile state may be hard, especially for those of us who used to take pride in our intense workouts and had a “no pain, no gain” philosophy, you need to remember that your workout is harming you, and you aren’t getting ahead. You are only falling behind. Health should be our goal, not keeping up with the person next to us in dance class or on the treadmill.

One of my favorite old dance pics

One of my favorite old dance pics 😉

There is a good chance that your old workout needs to be thrown out the window, for the time being. That is my situation. I know myself too well to know that if I go take a dance class right now, I will push myself too hard. So I need to find other ways to exercise with a different goal in mind: Healing. For me, this means gentle training, that doesn’t seem like “training” at all. Light stretching, yoga, rebounding, swimming, and nature walks are ideal for getting the body moving while focusing on rebuilding the adrenals. The key is keeping your stress level down and not overdoing it. A nature walk doesn’t mean an hour-long hike. Yoga doesn’t mean taking a “hot yoga” class each day. I would even go as far to say that if you are looking at the activity as “exercise,” then you are probably doing too much. Think of these as movement activities, geared towards getting your body out of an idle state into motion. Ten minutes once or twice a day doing any one of these things is going to be more healing for your body than any “exercise” will. Of course, as you heal, gradually increase your workouts, and listen to your body for how far to take it. I know that I can’t wait to get back to dance class!